Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness of one another. -Eustace Budgell 1767-1737

Pain & suffering is a part of life.  I have found that most people (myself included) are eager to create ways that deny or suppress our pain.  This tendency works on many levels, and becomes a habit.  Generally speaking, we need to face the suffering at some level and process it.  When it was first proposed to me that we can embrace and befriend our pain it sounded rediculous.  Explained further, our pain is telling us something, and by listening to the pain as a friend we can more quickly move through it.  In other words don’t let it accumulate and become larger than what it needs to be.  See a massage therapist, acupuncturist or psychologist.  Utilize friends and family who may have experience healing from something similar.